Have you ever had the experience as a child of someone telling you that you “should be grateful” for something in your life? I bet it went over as badly to you as it did to me. No one wants to hear someone implying that they don’t appreciate something. At the risk of sounding like someone from your past, I want to revisit the idea of why being grateful is a great attitude to have and how it can open the door to even more good stuff in your life.
Focusing on the parts of your life which are going well can take some practice. It seems like everywhere we turn there is something negative trying to get our attention. Some of the people in our lives may thrive on focusing on the things which aren’t working out as well as they would like, and spending time with them makes us feel down, too.
Avoid the Hot Potato of Negative Energy
The negative energy can be spread around, much like playing a game of Hot Potato: People think that by focusing on the things that are going wrong in their lives and elsewhere that they will feel better. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way and these negative ideas only infect the person hearing them like a nasty virus.
A Better Approach
Instead of focusing on what is going wrong in your life, take some time each day to think about what is going right. You may feel a bit silly at first, especially if you can only think of a few things. The fact that you are alive and can read this post is something to be grateful for and it’s a good place to start. Having a place to live and some food in the fridge is another cause for celebration. The love of family, friends and/or a pet can also be added to your list.
The problem with looking at your life and deciding that you don’t have anything to be grateful for now is that nothing will ever be enough for you. Once you get or achieve something, you will be focused on moving onto the next thing.
Being grateful for what is going well for you now doesn’t mean that you don’t have goals that you want to achieve. If you start from a place where you appreciate what you now have, you will be in a mindset which allows you to be open to opportunities to help you move from where you are now to where you want to be.
What are you grateful for in your life right now?
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